You can allow space for feelings without permitting bad behavior. Speaker: Dr. Aliza Pressman Source: You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships | The Mel Robbins Podcast I feel like - for some reason - this topic is one of the most misunderstood in modern parenting. Many new-age parents are embracing emotional validation with the intention of building emotional regulation skills in their children. That's great. But the execution is in question, and I think that's where this is an important message. We can let our children have feelings. We can allow them to experience them. We can even invite them, to an extent, but that doesn't mean we let them do whatever they want. That's permissive parenting, and it doesn't help our kids. The trick is allowing space for the feelings without shame and punishment, while stepping in where necessary with boundaries to keep our children (and others) safe. This also teaches our children how to better handle these big feelings and emotions. We start with awareness around the approach, and I think Dr. Pressman is spot on here. "All feelings are welcome. All behaviors are not." That's where we start. It's simple and clear. And it gives us the blueprint with our children when we run into these tough, emotional moments. Share this post with another parent who needs to hear it!