Getting this right sets your kid up for success. Speaker: Dr. Becky Kennedy Source: Overcoming Guilt & Building Tenacity in Kids & Adults | Dr. Becky Kennedy | Huberman Lab This is a really important topic, and it's something that I think a lot of parents struggle with. We want our kids to be able to handle hard things, but it's not always easy to grasp how this might be possible in the real world. Tantrums, quitting, and all these other things we don't really want to see our kids doing—they just kind of happen. It feels out of control and hard to manage. I think we often feel like we need to stop it in its tracks. We need to shut it down so that they can get back to doing what we think they should be doing. But this is nearly impossible to do. It just doesn't work. Our kids implode before they can just turn it off, especially when they're young. I think Dr. Becky is onto something here with this idea that we need to help them manage the intensity. We need to model that it can be decreased and that it's not about turning it off, but soothing the intensity so that we can get to a place of management. This allows us to operate in a challenging space, but not so challenging that we can't learn. Over time, this would be an excellent way to learn frustration tolerance and regulation skills that allow our children to manage these challenging situations and even thrive through them. Share this with another parent who needs to hear it!