You finally hold the boundary, and your kid goes full chaos mode. Screaming, crying, demanding, just totally unrelenting, losing it. And you’re standing there like *well, this feels like a mistake*. But here’s what’s actually happening: The boundary is REAL now. Before, they pushed - and it moved. Now they push, and it doesn’t. So OF COURSE they push harder. Not because they’re out of control or you did it wrong, but because they’re checking: “Is this for real this time??” Annnd this is the exact moment most of us fold 🫠 bc dear lord the pushback is exhaustinggg, we get it. But their brain goes: Ok, push big → boundary disappears. So, it keeps doing it. But when you *don’t* fold?? When you ride out the big feelings AND hold the boundary?? That’s when something shifts. Outside, it’s still loud and messy - but **underneath** they’re learning “The answer stays the same, even when I’m upset.” Stay steady and give it a consistent 3 days or so, and your kid will start to adjust. It’s hard but so, so worth it, because consistent boundaries = less pushback overtime