Is your husband obsessed with AI? There’s a strange and under-discussed side effect of the AI boom: what it’s doing to family dynamics. By which we mean: how it’s potentially destroying family dynamics. We’re sure this applies to all kinds of families, gay or straight, rich or poor, with any AI-pilled members. The technology is coming, has come, for us all. But for the purposes of this story, we mostly spoke to white-collar heteros in the Bay Area, because that’s where a certain psychological crisis seems most acute. Often it goes like this: He works in AI, and she does everything and anything else. Other times, it’s bleaker: He desperately wants to work in AI—or feels he must work in AI—and she wants him to do literally anything else. Either way, the men go in and the women want out. How many? It depends on how you define “working in AI.” About 71 percent of “AI-skilled workers,” according to one report, are men, and there are roughly 35,000 open AI roles in the US at any given moment. Broaden that to include investors and you’re adding thousands more. Broaden it further to include every man who has mentioned to his wife that he is “looking at some opportunities in the space”—and we’re in the millions. Conservatively, that means hundreds of thousands of spouses, partners, and girlfriends, holding down the fort while someone man-splains the singularity to them. There’s a name for these ranks, and the writer of this story, Alessandra Ram counts herself among them: the sad wives of AI