Here are 7 questions every confused parent should sit with if they’re adult children went no contact or are beginning to avoid them: 1. Were there times I prioritized being respected, being right, or staying in control over being emotionally present? 2. Could they share their truth without me making it about me? 3. Did I ever truly apologize — or did I expect them to “move on”? (What pain did they go through that I was to uncomfortable to acknowledge?) 4. What pain, stress or trauma was I carrying when I raised my children — and did I ever seek healing for it? If not why? 5. Could my child come to me with anything and still feel loved? (Or did love feel conditional — based on behavior, success, beliefs, or obedience?) 6. What unspoken emotional rules existed in my home growing up — and did I pass them down without realizing it? (e.g., “Don’t talk back,” “We don’t show weakness,” “Keep the family secrets,” etc.) 7. What would I say in a letter of pure accountability — with no defenses? (Start with: If I’m really honest with myself… here’s what I think might have hurt you.”) If you want your child to come back… Start by showing them that you’re willing to face what they never felt safe enough to say. This is where generational healing begins. If you want help please reach out to me If you’re the child…I see you. I know it hurt how they were. But maybe they’ll see this…maybe it creates connection ❤️Jay Saxe - The Inner Healing Coach #relationshipgoals #momdaughter #motherwoundhealing #motherwound #fatherwound #healing #lovingmyself #nocontact