What if the meltdown isn’t about your child? When a child melts down again and again, the best first step isn’t to fix their behavior. It’s to reflect on ours. She suggests spending one week simply observing: What happens before the meltdown? How do I respond? What’s happening in me? Often, we realize their big feelings rise when ours do; when we’re rushed, tense, or scattered. Kids feel that energy, and their nervous system joins the chaos. Dr. Pressman reminds us: “We don’t want to meet them where they are. We want them to meet us where we are.” That starts with slowing down, grounding, and modeling calm so they can find it too. It makes us wonder: when the storm hits, what’s the energy we’re bringing to it? Speaker: Dr. Aliza Pressman Source: You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships | The Mel Robbins Podcast